what a day

The past few days have been much better since the talk with my husband. I also spent the day with my father yesterday and got some of his incites on marriage. To let you know my father does not care for my husband very much but has supported me every step of the way.

Today was ugly rainy. We both had the day off of work together and went Christmas shopping. There is a new Walmart in the next city it is supposed to be the biggest Walmart on the East Coast. It was really big too. The store looked like a strip mall but it was only one store. There were all kinds of secondary shops inside. There was a lot more selections and varities available than my local Walmart. I think the 30 minute trip was worth it.

Today we bought clothes for our son and some of his Pokemon trading cards that he likes. I am happy to say we only have one more thing to buy him and the shopping for him will be finished. I was online last night buying some items for others in the family and tonight we were online purchasing a digital camera and printer docker for ourselves for Christmas. We also got a portable DVD during Black Friday specials. We always buy those kinds of things for our Christmas gifts. Last year was new appliances and the year before was a camcorder.

All in all the day was good despite the rain. It is still raining and my satelite keeps going out so I am a little mad this evening though. Tonight is the finale for my favorite TV show. I have been waiting 3 monthes to watch it. I love the show Biggest Loser.

Listen to this Sh**

The type of career I have is 24/7. Holidays don't apply to me. When you have a family this can make it kind of tough. I also have to work every other weekend. It has been my luck that for the past two years and again this year (because of a leap year in between) Christmas falls on my weekend to work.

The other day when I can home from work my husband informed me that he has Fri-Mon off and he is taking off with our son to a city 4 hours away to spend Christmas with his parents. When I said "and go without me" the reply "yeah. why not? you have to work anyway." Excuse me!!

To top it off he didn't even understand why I was upset. According to him I was upset "about (him) going to his parent's house" and I get upset whenever he wants to go. DAH, HELLO. I was not upset because he wanted to go to his parent's house without me. Anyone reading this could probably figure out the answer to that without me telling you. But I will anyway. I was upset because it will be Christmas and my family would be deserting me. Yeah I have to work but I get home early. But the worst was yet to come.

When I came back into the room after the semi-argument. He precedes to tell me that he is going to see a divorce lawyer. All that because he was being the idiot. I should have been the one consulting the divorce lawyer and was tempted to tell him not to bother coming home if he did go. But I didn't speak in anger because you can't take that stuff back once you come to your senses.

Lucky for him, he apologized a day later. And I will tell you an apology from him isn't flowers and candy or even an "I'm sorry." It was an explaination of (in my words) why he had been an ass. He says that he is still getting used to being married and having to think about someone else's feelings. A little background here. We have been married for 3 years now. And prior to this he was single parently raising his son. One would think that raising a child alone would teach you how to put someone else first.

I have learned these 5 years of our relationship that my husband is a slow learner. And I don't give him too many inches when he makes a mistake. I can only hope that he is moldable. My father in law once said it takes the first 5 years of marriage to settle in and that all marriages have their ups and downs. My father disagrees. He says it can take as long as 7-8 years and yes marriages have ups and downs.

God give me the strength to make it that long and not go insane in the meantime. Because there is so many other things about this marriage and man to be thankful for.

NEW BLOGGER

I am new at this so bare with me. I was introduced to blog by a friend. I choose my name because just about everything in my life appears to be trying to drive me crazy. People, places, things, ect... My family, job and house.

I plan to use this blog to vent about these things. Some topics will be my husband and son, my son's (actually crazy) biological mother, my job, my house.

My son is ADHD and has problems that stem from the neglect he suffered as an infant under his biological mothers care. If it isn't one thing it is another that we are going through with him.

My son's biological mother is like I said CRAZY. She is a vindictive, selfish bitch. She is always causing us headache somehow or another. And I really believe she likes doing it. She is just an evil sort. Birthday is on Oct 31st, imagine that.

I am a registered nurse. I work on a general hospital floor as a staff nurse. I am under-paid, underappreciated and overworked. I have to deal with more crazies there, everyday.

Then there is my house. We have lived here 4 years now and we have encountered lots of problems. One summer our air conditioner went out twice because the dog chewed through the wires. Then after we got it fixed a hurricane knocked out our power. We live on well water. No electricity means no air conditioning and no water. That same summer our well pump died. Again no water. The following year our air conditioner died too. Also when we needed it. And lastly this year so far the septic has backed up twice. Being a homeowner isn't all that it's cracked up to be. But hey at least I own something.

I will end here and try to post more details later. Maybe I can gather a support group or some incite from people who are going through or have gone through these types of troubles too.